Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Relationship is an easy cup of tea or not?

I know, many of you have experienced many downfalls in your relationships. You might have hurt yourself - in the relationship with your family, in the relationship with your work colleague, in the relationship with your lover, in the relationship with your closest friend - at-least once in your life so far. For some of you the relationship hurts hundreds of times :)  

When you feel bad about or irritated about a relationship, you start blaming the other person. Or you start nagging and try to change the other person.

But as per the law of love, any problem arises in your relationship is not because of the other person, it’s because of YOU. I know, probably you start saying, “You don’t know Jerin, what happened that day?” “You don’t understand Jerin, how much I love her, but she…”. These are the common responses.


Okay, let me suggest you this: Just change the roles to each other. Just like changing the dress; let’s swap the brain of you with the other person in the relationship. Now that you have become the other person. 

Start visualizing the situation which you felt hurt last time. This time, in your imagination you have to pretend and deliver dialogues of the other person. Other person has to respond to it as you did that day. You must try to clarify your side always (remember you are the other person). Please really try it, it will take a few seconds... Try it! :)
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thinking, ah? 

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Now that if you have done that, you might have got a better prespective. You must have realized that YOU are the solution of every relationship challenges.

If a hurting situation happens, just ignore it. Never give any feeling to it. Start thinking and nurture the good positive qualities of the other person. What do you give that you receive back. Give love and you receive love abundantly that’s the natural law.

Remember “When you start changing the way you look at things, the things you look at will change”. Think!

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