“Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will” - Zig Ziglar.
Before
I dive into the topic, let me ask you, which type of person are you?
A positive thinking person who sees everything as an opportunity? Or
a negative thinking person who sees life as a mess? Or a person who's
neutral with everything, who wants to “just live, just eat and just
die” type hah?
Whichever
type you are – positive, negative or don't care type, is no better
than any other type. If you have happened to be a positive or a
neutral person, then you don't have any right to bad-mouth/tease
negative thinking persons. If you do, then you don’t deserve to
hold the badge of a positive thinker.
As far as negative thinking people are concerned; Are they negative from the day they were born? When they were baby kids wasn’t their smile cute and innocent? When they were kids, did they see only negative things in their toys? The point is simple. All of us born with the same qualities like innocence, positivity and curiousness. But what made people behave differently there after?
Its
obvious guess, that the circumstances like the school, family, peers
and life experiences scripted us to become what we are. So in case,
your friend is behaving negatively, then it’s not their problem,
but its the belief system which your friend has acquired from
childhood to till date. Hence haunting a person by saying “the
truth to their face” that they are too negative won't make any
difference. Because they don't do it intentionally, it’s the way
their brain is hardwired for ages.
I
am not suggesting, you to shut your mouth, let them live the way
he/she is. We can make a difference in their behavior with a new
approach. In fact, they have “diseased thoughts”. When we split
the word disease it becomes dis + ease, so you can see that their
“thoughts are not at ease”. How do you treat a diseased person,
treat 'em with compassion and care.
Here
is a story, to make you understand, how to exactly do that.
One
day when Jill's mom arrived home. She saw Jill had spilled the water
from the refrigerator all over the kitchen. She got so much angry and
was about to scold him. But then she decided to stay cool and seek to
understand her son.
She
asked “Jill! What's up? What are you doing dear?”
Jill
replied “I was getting water to clean the vessels for you Mom”.
She
didn't understand and asked “Why did you take water from
refrigerator then?”
Jill
said “The wash basin is too high for me to reach for water”.
With
a smile she said “That’s a good boy. Next time, you can use a
chair to get height or call me for help. Okay? By the way, now let us
clean the floor”.
Jill
came up with a cloth. And both of them happily cleaned the kitchen.
Later, in the evening when Jill’s dad came to home, Jill ran and
opened the door and he said to dad
“I
am a hard working good boy”.
Jill's
mother could have behaved negatively, but she didn't. She appreciated
his son's little efforts. And talked his flaws in a way that Jill can
understand but without hurting him. That made that kid to see him as
a hard working good boy.
You
might say to me, “Hey Jerin, Jill is a kid and its easy to handle
him positively, but it’s not the case of my colleague or my friend,
they are so aggressive”. Okay, you may be right. But for both the
persons – who behaves negatively and you - have got one power,
which is nothing but the power of choice. Even-though the negative
person had got all the negative pressures he could have made a choice
to be good and to behave positively. But he hasn't, that is the
reason he is still stuck in the negativity category.
In
the same way, you have also got the power, to choose. To behave
differently, to respond differently. When you treat them well,
even-though the other person is negative, that person will change;
that’s natural. But you may need little patience, initially he
won't respond the way you want. But gradually he will. So when you
deal with a negative person, you have got a “choice” of how to
respond. And you have to be “patient” to see positive results.
Use them, you will see miracles happening :)
And
finally, try to help them understand
and act
on the following:
- UNDERSTAND: “Thoughts have a frequency” - this is revealed by the recent research in the quantum physics. So when your thoughts are in the negative vibrational frequency, you will attract circumstances and persons which are in the negative frequencies. It is the same way positive thought frequencies work.
- ACT: To keep themselves in positive frequency, they have to make a choice, to stay away from negative-thought-frequency-creating-situations like – gossiping, watching-reading-talking negative news, criticizing, arguing and fighting. If they can do so, that will lead them to a positive and fulfilling life.
- UNDERSTAND: Also it’s the sub-conscious programming, which made them behave negatively. Your conscious thinking is only the tip of the ice berg; the rest 90% of the ice berg controls everything in your life, which is the sub-conscious mind.
- ACT: Reprogramming the sub-conscious mind is possible. For that they have to make another choice, that now-onwards they will listen, speak and see only positivity
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