Can you control your Anger?

Many of you might have read a lot more about anger management, and might have started practicing the process to control this unworthy emotion. But still many of us lose control, when we are challenged by irritating circumstances and nagging co-beings. Why this happens is, our social scripting is that whenever someone challenges you with anger, we should resist back in the same way if we are courageous. If we don't respond against it, people would say he is a coward and of no help. And many who respond with anger are proud to do so and most of the time men may say “we have to fight against odd as a real fighter”.

But the reality is, the people who get angry very often, are the most weakest. They are afraid of the situations and want to resist the undesirable situations some how. Outside they may be ferocious but inside they fumble and are fearful.

Its not the muscles or the physique rather the mental toughness makes a man brave. Jesus Christ, Buddha and Gandhi are the real examples for mental toughness and non-violence. Even though these great men never practiced any anger management techniques; Its Okay to practice different anger management techniques, Like - “Drinking water when anger comes”, “Counting down from 10 to 0 or 100 to 0 as per the intensity of the anger” and so on. In fact many of us still got angry even then we practiced all those things. It happens because, our sub-conscious still believes that anger is of pride or is natural.

So we need to understand, anger may give short term relief as of opium or alcohol, but ultimately it will make our life worst. Now the solution is we need to re-script our conscious and sub-conscious mind and create a new belief system that:

1. Anger is for cowards and
2. Anger only hurts everyone involved
3. Anger disrupts relationships
4. Anger even affects our immune system and health
5. Anger cannot bring anything positive into our life were as love can

To change our belief system needs conscious efforts from our side. We need to constantly expose ourselves with people and situations that exemplifies love is the solution for anger. Shift your focus from agitating against anger to giving love to heal everything. The solution for anger is Love. Here the love is used in a broader sense – the Love is being caring, the Love is listening with empathy, the Love is showing respect and the Love is even a good smile. Lets practice it:)

 "Anger is always a sign of weakness. Just plainly and simply put the whole thing; perhaps the other person may find that you are right and may be thankful to you. Or perhaps the other person may have better reasons than you; then you will be thankful to the other person because he helps to raise your consciousness" -Osho.