Tuesday, December 3, 2013

How to Use Books to Inspire You?

By Jerin Jacob (Author of Your Epic Year)
I am confused, what to read...
Early in this journey of being alive, I was not at all interested in reading, even though I was aware about its virtues. I remember, sometime ago a friend of mine who was mentoring me about the necessity and greatness of reading. “Oh man! I don't have much time, I don't even get time to ...”, before I complete, he interrupted me and suggested to try reading just before bed-time. I tried. It worked. That was how an epic reader was born.

From that time of tasting my first book till now, I read and read when ever I could and where ever I am. Most of the time my reading comes under the category of “Reading for yourself”. You may wonder, by the way what is this “Reading for yourself” is all about?

Over the ages of my rigorous reading and watching others read, I have come to realize everyone who reads are not reading the same. Everyone has their own preferences on what to read. I have categorized the reading preferences into two – which are “Reading for yourself” and “Reading for entertainment”.

“Reading for yourself” is a kind of reading which helps to improve you as a being. When I said improvement, it can be spiritual, intellectual, physical or social. Any reading which makes you better than yesterday is “Reading for yourself”. On the surface level it looks selfish but the simple fact is that to help others become 'better', you need to become 'better' first.

On the other hand there are people who do “Reading for entertainment”. As the name itself conveys these people see reading as sheer means for fun. They use reading as an alternative for any entertainment medium like Television (they never admit though). This kind of reading involves novels or junk fiction stories or crime stories or erotic stories. I am not saying “Reading for entertainment” is bad. I would say “Reading for yourself” has greater advantages over the other one.

Latest development in neurobiology reveals that reading of a single sentence can alter your neurons in the brain significantly which in turn creates a new belief system in your mind. That means whatever you read has a greater impact in your life.

So choose to read self-help books or self-improvement books, also writings which gives you a new perspective towards life and people, like an autobiography of a great person or a non-fiction writing about your passion or even a fiction writing which inspires to follow your heart.

A simple comparison:


Reading for yourself:

Reading for entertainment:

1. Gives you new perspective towards life 1. Not necessarily, may be you can gulp the author's perspective
2. Helps to learn something new 2. Not every time, you are focusing on entertainment
3. Inspires for your dreams 3. Crime stories and such, may not inspire you unless you aspire to become a criminal
4. Messages will be direct hence time won't be lost roaming around in a story 4. You won't get direct answers; mostly you need to interpret or need to read the whole novel to get a simple answer you are seeking in life.
5. Probably it will help you to be successful,
in case you take actions on the lessons you
learn.
5. You will make the author and the publisher successful, never you.



Hope the concepts have served you. By the way do you know someone who really needs to read this? If so, go ahead and share this article with that person. Sharing is caring.

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Thursday, November 21, 2013

4 must-read books for anyone who wants anything!



By Jerin Jacob
(Author of Your Epic Year)

Here is my list of the top 4 self help books which literally transformed my thinking and life. Interestingly these books happened to be the world's most-popular and must-read books also.

1. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People By Steven R Covey

This is a widely read self hep book across the planet. The author Steven R Covey had done thorough research to crack out the best habits of highly effective and influential people. The book mainly focuses on explaining those habits which are: 
1. Be proactive 2. Begin with the end in mind 3. Put first things first 4. Seek to understand before it is understood 5. Think Win/Win 6. Synergy 7. Sharpen the saw 
2. The Power By Rhonda Byrne


The author of the celebrated book and DVD 'The Secret' – Rhonda Byrne's second book is 'The Power' which is more profound and easily applicable to our daily life. The whole book revolves around the-power-of-love though, the book captures some great insights about life. It is a must read for those who want to live a life of sheer awesomeness and passion.

3. Rich Dad Poor Dad By Robert T Kiyosaki


'Rich Dad' has become the most trusted and loved brand on financial education just because of this book. 'Rich Dad Poor Dad' reveals the secrets to master your finances and to take control of your life. He questions the conventional method of accounting and introduces innovative yet simple concepts about money, which has inspired millions of people to become financially free. Read this in case you struggle with lots of money or with lack of money.

4. The Definitive Book Of Body Language By Alen and Barbara Pease


Will you be fascinated with a concept which helps to read the mind of the other person? This book helps to do so almost every time. This is one of the best books on body language, which gives scientific explanations of our different gestures and postures. Using the book you can easily catch up whether someone is lying or is angry, even if he/she is deceiving you. More than that it helps to improve your charisma in your social life.

Let me share one more powerful book apart from this four great books.

4+1. 100 Magical Revelations By Azeeza Jalaludeen


This is an eBook and it can be only available in this format, since it is a gamified eBook. That is, this eBook is designed with some casual gaming features integrated in it. That makes it more like playing than reading. It is a collection of 100 powerful and magical revelations. The benefits of this innovative eBook are:

1. When you play this eBook, you will be surprised to get answers for your issues in life as if the eBook reads your mind.

2. Instant answers for your challenges in life, no need of reading long chapters unlike other self help books.
               
3. The eBook which is like a game lets you read each revelation at a time. This takes less than #1 minute hence you can use it as a daily-inspiration-generating tool.

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Monday, March 25, 2013

Negative thinking people are NOT bad!

By Jerin Jacob
(Author of Your Epic Year)


“Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will” - Zig Ziglar.
  
Before I dive into the topic, let me ask you, which type of person are you? A positive thinking person who sees everything as an opportunity? Or a negative thinking person who sees life as a mess? Or a person who's neutral with everything, who wants to “just live, just eat and just die” type hah?

Whichever type you are – positive, negative or don't care type, is no better than any other type. If you have happened to be a positive or a neutral person, then you don't have any right to bad-mouth/tease negative thinking persons. If you do, then you don’t deserve to hold the badge of a positive thinker.


As far as negative thinking people are concerned; Are they negative from the day they were born? When they were baby kids wasn’t their smile cute and innocent? When they were kids, did they see only negative things in their toys? The point is simple. All of us born with the same qualities like innocence, positivity and curiousness. But what made people behave differently there after?

Its obvious guess, that the circumstances like the school, family, peers and life experiences scripted us to become what we are. So in case, your friend is behaving negatively, then it’s not their problem, but its the belief system which your friend has acquired from childhood to till date. Hence haunting a person by saying “the truth to their face” that they are too negative won't make any difference. Because they don't do it intentionally, it’s the way their brain is hardwired for ages.

I am not suggesting, you to shut your mouth, let them live the way he/she is. We can make a difference in their behavior with a new approach. In fact, they have “diseased thoughts”. When we split the word disease it becomes dis + ease, so you can see that their “thoughts are not at ease”. How do you treat a diseased person, treat 'em with compassion and care.

Here is a story, to make you understand, how to exactly do that.

One day when Jill's mom arrived home. She saw Jill had spilled the water from the refrigerator all over the kitchen. She got so much angry and was about to scold him. But then she decided to stay cool and seek to understand her son.
She asked “Jill! What's up? What are you doing dear?”
Jill replied “I was getting water to clean the vessels for you Mom”.
She didn't understand and asked “Why did you take water from refrigerator then?”
Jill said “The wash basin is too high for me to reach for water”.
With a smile she said “That’s a good boy. Next time, you can use a chair to get height or call me for help. Okay? By the way, now let us clean the floor”.
Jill came up with a cloth. And both of them happily cleaned the kitchen. Later, in the evening when Jill’s dad came to home, Jill ran and opened the door and he said to dad
I am a hard working good boy”.

Jill's mother could have behaved negatively, but she didn't. She appreciated his son's little efforts. And talked his flaws in a way that Jill can understand but without hurting him. That made that kid to see him as a hard working good boy.

You might say to me, “Hey Jerin, Jill is a kid and its easy to handle him positively, but it’s not the case of my colleague or my friend, they are so aggressive”. Okay, you may be right. But for both the persons – who behaves negatively and you - have got one power, which is nothing but the power of choice. Even-though the negative person had got all the negative pressures he could have made a choice to be good and to behave positively. But he hasn't, that is the reason he is still stuck in the negativity category.

In the same way, you have also got the power, to choose. To behave differently, to respond differently. When you treat them well, even-though the other person is negative, that person will change; that’s natural. But you may need little patience, initially he won't respond the way you want. But gradually he will. So when you deal with a negative person, you have got a “choice” of how to respond. And you have to be “patient” to see positive results. Use them, you will see miracles happening :)

And finally, try to help them understand and act on the following:

  1. UNDERSTAND: “Thoughts have a frequency” - this is revealed by the recent research in the quantum physics. So when your thoughts are in the negative vibrational frequency, you will attract circumstances and persons which are in the negative frequencies. It is the same way positive thought frequencies work.

  1. ACT: To keep themselves in positive frequency, they have to make a choice, to stay away from negative-thought-frequency-creating-situations like – gossiping, watching-reading-talking negative news, criticizing, arguing and fighting. If they can do so, that will lead them to a positive and fulfilling life.

  1. UNDERSTAND: Also it’s the sub-conscious programming, which made them behave negatively. Your conscious thinking is only the tip of the ice berg; the rest 90% of the ice berg controls everything in your life, which is the sub-conscious mind.

  1. ACT: Reprogramming the sub-conscious mind is possible. For that they have to make another choice, that now-onwards they will listen, speak and see only positivity

P.S Hope this article has helped you some way or the other. Please comment your feed back below.

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