Saturday, December 31, 2011

Resolutions FAIL every year! but not in 2015!

By Jerin Jacob 

I know, many of you must have written down one of the most daring and amazing resolutions in the world for the coming year. But sadly a little voice from your heart says “Buddy, you are NOT gonna keep it”.

You may try to really avoid that little voice but ultimately after one or two days you have to agree with that little voice, and you may say “Yes, buddy, you are right! I am such a lazy lad, I failed to keep up this year’s resolution also, but I am sure next year I will do it, let’s wait  :) ”. It happens with most of us.

You might have put up resolutions like “Quit smoking and start singing”, “Climb Mount Everest”, “Go to gymnasium everyday”, “Learn dancing and screaming”, “Start a diet and reduce #20 Kg of weight” “Propose her, atleast say ‘I love you’ ” and even small resolutions like “Cleaning teeth and smiling big” :)

From the most exciting one to the very simple and easiest resolutions fail with most of the persons every year!

Here I come. My intention is to sort out the “why” behind your frustrations on resolutions and to really help you to find a solution which works with the precision of the “rocket science” but you can learn as simple as a Kinder Garden subject :)

Why the resolutions fail: the big question?

#1st Reason: People just put up resolutions, which they might have read from a magazine or any “other” blogs. Their hearts simply won’t resonate with those resolutions, but still they do "try" to pursue them. Whatever you do, if you have not surrendered to your heart, you will fail for sure.

My point is one of the reasons behind the resolutions fail is; the person taking the resolution does not really feel like doing it. They do it for the sake of doing. You know that, whatever you do half-minded becomes a failure.

#2nd Reason: Another reason many of your good resolutions fail is because you might not know, “how to” execute those resolutions or in other words you might not know “how to” live those resolutions.

You might simply "try" something, just like last year; but it just end up in failure. I am NOT talking about planning, rather the “how to”s or the steps towards your resolutions. To make this point more clear, I am explaining it in the solution section below.

#3rd Reason: Very importantly, you should understand the working of the sub-conscious brain. You may say “I know, how my sub-conscious brain works, it is the most vital part with respect to my brain’s functionality. It is the basis of all my actions and behaviors”.

Yes, that is right! let me make it simple. Your sub-conscious brain is like a captain in a ship. Let’s say the passengers (just like you) in the ship have taken exciting resolutions to travel to their dream destinations. But you know that the ship will ultimately move to the place the  captain  of the ship - sub conscious brain - wanted to go.

That is, you need to consider your sub-conscious brain also, when we take resolutions, "what? are you making it too complex?", No! not at all, you can easily be a friend of your sub-conscious brain and understand its working easily, continue reading!
The Solution:

I know many of you have written or thinking of writing resolutions for the brand new year, but I can smell around that, even you are not sure how many of them can be fulfilled. I can help you to really follow all of your New Year resolutions as never before.

#1: Have you heard about “baby steps”? “No, it’s not about the steps a baby takes” rather it’s a strategy which anyone can easily use to accomplish your goals, in this case your resolutions. 

The concept goes this way, it is simple, it is practising a very small step towards your resolution every single day. That is, If your resolution is to reduce #20 Kg weight, then you can assume that you need to exercise for #1 Hr daily. As per the concept, you have to take a decision to exercise ONLY #10 mins every day other than #1 Hr.

Why? when you do so, you feel like “something has to be done” every day. That feeling makes you wake-up every day, you will continue doing it throughout the year. It works!

“No Jerin, I am ready to go for full #1 hr daily exercise”. Okay, I am sure, you won’t make it beyond a week. In case you are an exception and if your are that determined and disciplined then you would probably will keep up all your resolutions, without reading this :)

#2: Next thing, as I mentioned already about the sub-conscious captain and its impact on your resolutions. So your next task is to make the sub-conscious your friend. How? 

Simple, attach pictures corresponding to your New Year resolutions, why? Because pictures help to rescript your sub-conscious brain according to your needs. When laziness chips in, you will see those images in your mind, that will make you jump start again. By the way its your responsibility to make those pictures so compelling :)

Now that, these are #2 simple solutions for you, act accordingly!

What? ... You don’t have a resolution :( 

Okay, you must be one of such, who believes, life cannot be planned? Face life as it comes? ah?

Interestingly you plan very well for exams, job interviews, when you build a home and even for a vacation. But why do you hesitate to do the same for this divine gift - called life. 

I have one thing to say: “Life has no second chance as it for exams and job interviews”, so live life as you always wanted by resolving your challenges and reach one step closer to your bigger dream! 

My dear friend, go and write down you resolutions for the New Year. I am sure, this time you will accomplish them all, it is not just for you but for the world around you!

Wishing you all a very awesome New Year ahead!

(This New Year, visit us @ https://www.facebook.com/SecretsOfSuccess, you will love it!)

6 comments:

  1. Absolutely! some very simple yet powerful thoughts, that is so practical. EVERYTHING starts with baby steps.

    Look forward to creating miracles with baby steps with you Coach Jerin. :-) All the best for an Astonishingly Awesome 2012!

    Azeeza Jalaludeen
    SHINE - Self-Help International Network Enterprise
    www.moneyandyou.co.in

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  2. Thank you so much Azeeza for the kind words. Yes, 2012 is going to be simply awesome!

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  3. Thank you Hazem for the feedback. Please do use it :)

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  4. Thank you Sreeraj for the feed back :)

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