Oh! Come on, You are Success!

By Jerin Jacob (Author of Your Epic Year)

Success! it is one of the topic, written about and read about millions of times from the day man got the ability to comb their hair properly. Many books, articles, training materials and courses are being introduced by some beautiful people, of course they have become extremely successful selling them. Its like showing a plastic cake and taking orders and then using the same money to buy a real cake for himself.

But what is success? Even after this much information overload, everyone has their on philosophy around success. Interestingly many still become 'successful' without reading to, without listening to any 'blah, blah' stuffs.

My intention here is to help you take off your black glared sun glass you are wearing to see success. So that you can enjoy a brand new sunny day.

Okay, many say success is relative and is dependent to individual to individual. I did think that way, till the time I hear 'The Strangest Secret' by Earl Nightingale. He explains, those who have a goal to pursue for, is successful. That is, the journey towards so called 'success' itself is success. To put it in simple terms, as you have a goal to complete reading this article, and you are working towards it by keep reading. Hence you are success right now.

Then who is failure, I know one of your friend or foe is sleeping right now because of laziness and has no goal to achieve. This guy is a failure (unless his dream is, sleep like morons). Using the earlier 'reading this article' metaphor, even if that guy sees this link on his Facebook News-feed, he won't bother to click and read this. That means anyone who doesn't have any specific goal (not necessary a bigger one) to achieve, is a failure.

"So Jerin, are you saying, I am already successful and there is no need to achieve my dreams". 

Not really, rather you should understand that your aim is not to become successful but to enjoy the journey towards your dreams. Not like whining, "He is success, I am not", "He has done it in his younger age, I am aged, so I won't never be successful".

But if you can live with a perspective of 'being-successful-already', your life will be more of fun and happy. You must have seen, all those lazy unproductive people, enjoy life more than you, they chill out and have fun. Because they just don't care and may say "whataaaever!". At the same time you have the greatest of vision and dream, but you just 'wait' till the day you become 'success'. Why?

You take any so called 'successful' people out there, you can see they have come a long way to live in abundance and in popularity. But the reality is, even if there were struggles in their life, they all did enjoy their journey. To be 'successful', you have to feel success right now. Not like, when you have everything you will.

At the end of the day, life is meant to live happily at every second of your life time. So treat yourself as if you are already a 'successful' person and chill out. By the way you are reading the last sentence of the article, if you had not enjoyed reading this, you wouldn't have reached here. Have fun.

“Success is not a destination, it's a journey”

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As "personality" is the worst mask, then whom can you trust?

Let me start of this way “The worst mask is personality of a person”. Some of you may wonder how dare I am to write such a blunt statement. Please don't fight over it, let me explain my point.


Whenever I hear “He has got a great personalty”, or when someone says “I admire him, because what a charming personality he has got”, I have always felt these people are going in a wrong direction. Why?

Because the greatness of anything cannot be realized by looking its outside appearance. If that hasn’t been the case mankind would have never found diamonds from dark charcoals.

Personality can be referred as someone's trained behavior or an outside appearance. Basically it is the behavioral pattern of an individual with respect to different situations in life. When someone says he has got a great personality that does mean he has got a great skill to sell himself to others. His skills include effective communication skills, great body language, nice smile. He may be even very active in his communities. He may have all the luxury possessions . Having these qualities is a fantastic thing.

But most of the time these trained behaviors and external awesomeness of a person may be a mask to deceive or hide someone's real character. That means you cannot really trust someone by their humble behaviors or by their dress code.

Now you may ask,  “Jerin, then what is it, that makes a person trustworthy and admirable?” the answer is simple but many of us have forgotten this reality. Yes, a better character makes a man perfect.

You may ask “what? character isn’t a part of personality?” Not at all, personality is someone’s external behavior while character is an internal thing or the real existence of a being.

Character is the best trait of a man because outer personality rather the mask would tear down when so called great “personalities” meet some real challenges. You must have seen many well dressed and well behaved persons burst out with anger even for some petty things. At the same time you might have seen people handling the toughest things with genuine smile and humility.

Let me make it more clear by relating the concept with an old story. You must have heard/read the very popular Aesop’s tale of a rabbit and a tortoise running a race. The rabbit thought of taking rest between the race and it failed the competition because the tortoise converted the rabbit's sleeping time to it's winning time. Before the race, spectators gathered in the starting point must have definitely thought rabbit will win the race because they entrusted the “personality” of the rabbit but they never knew that the rabbit was a lazy lad inside.

So the moral of the story with respect to the topic is the character of consistency and integrity wins at the end of the day not the personality and muscle power.

Okay, now that you may want to know how you can find someone with a better character. To find someone with such greatness of character, the only way is assess the person by investing your time for a long period. The best character cannot be defined but only can be felt by someones humbleness or goodness.

On the other hand to find a person with a great personality you may need some seconds of time as it is solely based on what you see outside.

Now the big question, how can I develop a better character?

Personality mask or Personality techniques can be acquired by simply attending a personality or behavioral training program but acquiring a great character needs more effort and time.

“Yes, I know you are ready to invest your time”. “Okay, that is great but you need to understand one more thing!”. It is about the “Character Development Cycle”. Which is a very simple cyclic process behind Character Development.

#1st stage

It starts with a “thought”. If you consume a thought over and over again that very thought will reflect in your behavior.  (Thought --> Behavior)

#2nd stage

If you continue behaving in a certain way over and over again, your behavior becomes your second nature. That means that behavior becomes a part of your habit.  (Behavior --> Habit) 

#3rd & final stage

Then when you keep this habit for quite a long time, the same habit will convert it your character.  (Habit --> Character)

This is the Character Development Cycle; any of your character traits have undergone this process.

If you say “I become angry easily, because it’s my character” that means you had a recurring “thought” of being in a state of anger/agitation/frustration some time ago. Then that thought had become your behavior. After that the same behavior became your habit. Then finally that habit has rooted in your character. That means it all started from a “thought of anger”.

If you want to transform your character, it’s simple, change your thoughts and consume that thought over a period of time. Research says that if you can hold a thought/behavior over a continuous period of #21 days that thought becomes rooted in your sub-conscious mind and in turn becomes your character.

That means noblest of character is neither a special blessing nor a matter of up-bringing. But someone's continues effort to consume good thoughts.

So next time when you “think” something, have a self-analysis, do I want to make this thought a part of my character.

Let us think good, talk good and live good!

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A TRAIN waited for me!

By Jerin Jacob

You must have heard or have experienced of a taxi cab waiting for you or a bus or a friend waiting for you. Have you ever had an experience of a train waiting for you? I do!

The story goes this way…

         

        Other day on a weekend, I was getting ready to travel to my home town and I preferred traveling on ‘the hero’ of this shot story – a train. May be because of the weekend, I woke up little late and had to rush to catch up an early morning train. To reach the railway station, I had to catch up a bus but I missed the first bus even-though I had a close encounter with it – (In my country public-transportation is more common by the way).

        If bus driver had seen me and waited for me for a while,  I would have got the bus and would have got another topic to write “A bus waited for me!” and I wonder that wouldn’t be that interesting to write about. { This part of the Life-journey is called keep enjoying even if you lose something in between! }

              After waiting a “very long” couple of minutes, I got the second bus and reached at some where close to the railway station. I could only land around #200 meters away from the railway station as there were no direct bus routes. I can see far away the train had arrived and would departure very soon.

       I had two choices - I could run or could hire an Autorikshaw – (In my country this beautiful vehicle is also very common) to reach there as fast as possible. If I ran, I would definitely end up missing the train and losing some calories so running was a bad choice.

        Fortunately I found one Autorikshaw coming from the opposite direction where I wanted to go. But the driver understood the situation and applied the break immediately and skidded the vehicle as if he was being filmed for a Hollywood movie. He screamed “Come on in, we will catch the train sir…”.      { This part of the Life-journey is called not losing hope and taking inspired action }

             When the driver stopped near a short cut to the railway station. I handed him the traveling wage and jumped off the Autorikshaw and ran towards the railway track. “Don’t get me wrong, I was not heading to a suicide attempt neither was expecting of my lover’s hand to hold me from the train just like some Bollywood films”.

       When I ran close to the train, its engine had started and got moving little faster. People who were walking aside the road to the railway track, were watching me. They screamed for me to jump in and get into the train - (Hey, I am not over dramatizing it). People did encourage me so, at the same time one person from the other side of the railway track kept saying. “Don’t do it, don’t do it, you will not make it”. Even-though I avoided his discouragement my logic said I can’t make it as I had big baggage too with me.

Finally I quit trying. { This part of the Life-journey is called losing opportunity by thinking about security and comfort }

       After the disappointing attempt, I gave a thanking smile to the Autorikshaw driver and the people who encouraged me. I looked down for no reason but kept smiling as I walked to the railway station. The train went on moving aside me. { This part of the Life-journey is called Keep feeling good & trust in the divine power! } 

                  When I took two or three steps - to my surprise, the train rather than getting up the speed, it is slowing down and was almost stopped. My fans (hope I could call them so) started screaming again “Dude! Get in now at-least!”.

          When I was jumping in to one of the train compartment, I could see a man far from the Engine room was making sure I am safely in. Then the train slowly regained its speed. (May be the train driver had seen me “trying to get in” since I was running towards the train from the engine side earlier).

        When I delightfully got in, I saw a glimpse of the people who supported me – they had a smile of relief. But I forgot to look for that single person who discouraged me – I guessed, his eyes must have become bull’s eye because of disbelief as I got into the train very effortlessly which he might have thought impossible. { This part of the Life-journey is called believing in the destination and keep moving forward without bothering about discouragement or encouragement }

                       

             Yes that is how I got into the train. All those efforts went worth. I tell you, traveling through God’s own country in a train, sitting on a “side seat” is the most romantic thing you can ever have. { This part of the Life-journey is called exploring new possibilities and enjoying the journey at the fullest! }

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Relationship is an easy cup of tea or not?

I know, many of you have experienced many downfalls in your relationships. You might have hurt yourself - in the relationship with your family, in the relationship with your work colleague, in the relationship with your lover, in the relationship with your closest friend - at-least once in your life so far. For some of you the relationship hurts hundreds of times :)  

When you feel bad about or irritated about a relationship, you start blaming the other person. Or you start nagging and try to change the other person.

But as per the law of love, any problem arises in your relationship is not because of the other person, it’s because of YOU. I know, probably you start saying, “You don’t know Jerin, what happened that day?” “You don’t understand Jerin, how much I love her, but she…”. These are the common responses.

Okay, let me suggest you this: Just change the roles to each other. Just like changing the dress; let’s swap the brain of you with the other person in the relationship. Now that you have become the other person. 

Start visualizing the situation which you felt hurt last time. This time, in your imagination you have to pretend and deliver dialogues of the other person. Other person has to respond to it as you did that day. You must try to clarify your side always (remember you are the other person). Please really try it, it will take a few seconds... Try it! :)

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thinking, ah? 

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Now that if you have done that, you might have got a better prespective. You must have realized that YOU are the solution of every relationship challenges.

If a hurting situation happens, just ignore it. Never give any feeling to it. Start thinking and nurture the good positive qualities of the other person. What do you give that you receive back. Give love and you receive love abundantly that’s the natural law.

Remember “When you start changing the way you look at things, the things you look at will change”. Think!

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Resolutions FAIL every year! but not in 2015!

By Jerin Jacob 

I know, many of you must have written down one of the most daring and amazing resolutions in the world for the coming year. But sadly a little voice from your heart says “Buddy, you are NOT gonna keep it”.

You may try to really avoid that little voice but ultimately after one or two days you have to agree with that little voice, and you may say “Yes, buddy, you are right! I am such a lazy lad, I failed to keep up this year’s resolution also, but I am sure next year I will do it, let’s wait  :) ”. It happens with most of us.

You might have put up resolutions like “Quit smoking and start singing”, “Climb Mount Everest”, “Go to gymnasium everyday”, “Learn dancing and screaming”, “Start a diet and reduce #20 Kg of weight” “Propose her, atleast say ‘I love you’ ” and even small resolutions like “Cleaning teeth and smiling big” :)

From the most exciting one to the very simple and easiest resolutions fail with most of the persons every year!

Here I come. My intention is to sort out the “why” behind your frustrations on resolutions and to really help you to find a solution which works with the precision of the “rocket science” but you can learn as simple as a Kinder Garden subject :)

Why the resolutions fail: the big question?

#1^st Reason: People just put up resolutions, which they might have read from a magazine or any “other” blogs. Their hearts simply won’t resonate with those resolutions, but still they do "try" to pursue them. Whatever you do, if you have not surrendered to your heart, you will fail for sure.

My point is one of the reasons behind the resolutions fail is; the person taking the resolution does not really feel like doing it. They do it for the sake of doing. You know that, whatever you do half-minded becomes a failure.

#2^nd Reason: Another reason many of your good resolutions fail is because you might not know, “how to” execute those resolutions or in other words you might not know “how to” live those resolutions.

You might simply "try" something, just like last year; but it just end up in failure. I am NOT talking about planning, rather the “how to”s or the steps towards your resolutions. To make this point more clear, I am explaining it in the solution section below.

#3^rd Reason: Very importantly, you should understand the working of the sub-conscious brain. You may say “I know, how my sub-conscious brain works, it is the most vital part with respect to my brain’s functionality. It is the basis of all my actions and behaviors”.

Yes, that is right! let me make it simple. Your sub-conscious brain is like a captain in a ship. Let’s say the passengers (just like you) in the ship have taken exciting resolutions to travel to their dream destinations. But you know that the ship will ultimately move to the place the  captain  of the ship - sub conscious brain - wanted to go.

That is, you need to consider your sub-conscious brain also, when we take resolutions, "what? are you making it too complex?", No! not at all, you can easily be a friend of your sub-conscious brain and understand its working easily, continue reading!

The Solution:

I know many of you have written or thinking of writing resolutions for the brand new year, but I can smell around that, even you are not sure how many of them can be fulfilled. I can help you to really follow all of your New Year resolutions as never before.

#1: Have you heard about “baby steps”? “No, it’s not about the steps a baby takes” rather it’s a strategy which anyone can easily use to accomplish your goals, in this case your resolutions. 

The concept goes this way, it is simple, it is practising a very small step towards your resolution every single day. That is, If your resolution is to reduce #20 Kg weight, then you can assume that you need to exercise for #1 Hr daily. As per the concept, you have to take a decision to exercise ONLY #10 mins every day other than #1 Hr.

Why? when you do so, you feel like “something has to be done” every day. That feeling makes you wake-up every day, you will continue doing it throughout the year. It works!

“No Jerin, I am ready to go for full #1 hr daily exercise”. Okay, I am sure, you won’t make it beyond a week. In case you are an exception and if your are that determined and disciplined then you would probably will keep up all your resolutions, without reading this :)

#2: Next thing, as I mentioned already about the sub-conscious captain and its impact on your resolutions. So your next task is to make the sub-conscious your friend. How? 

Simple, attach pictures corresponding to your New Year resolutions, why? Because pictures help to rescript your sub-conscious brain according to your needs. When laziness chips in, you will see those images in your mind, that will make you jump start again. By the way its your responsibility to make those pictures so compelling :)

Now that, these are #2 simple solutions for you, act accordingly!

What? ... You don’t have a resolution :( 

Okay, you must be one of such, who believes, life cannot be planned? Face life as it comes? ah?

Interestingly you plan very well for exams, job interviews, when you build a home and even for a vacation. But why do you hesitate to do the same for this divine gift - called life. 

I have one thing to say: “Life has no second chance as it for exams and job interviews”, so live life as you always wanted by resolving your challenges and reach one step closer to your bigger dream! 

My dear friend, go and write down you resolutions for the New Year. I am sure, this time you will accomplish them all, it is not just for you but for the world around you!

Wishing you all a very awesome New Year ahead!

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Its your choice!

It is the choices that separates the greatest and the mediocrity not the circumstances. If you asked Steve Jobs, how did you achieve these much success in your life? He would definitely share that it was because of the choices he took in his life was made all the differences. If you ask Ghandhiji, Warren Buffet, Mohammed Ali or anyone who was and is a massive success, they will agree on the importance of making better choices in life.

Yes, I am sure you might have got my point already. So then what are you waiting for, be a “choice-maker-machine”, and always make postive and good choices in your life. Eventually you will also be count among the greatest!

“Oh really! If it was that easy then why eveyone is not doing so?”, I can smell this may be the question in your head right now. The thing is, it is simple but not easy to take right decsions in your life. Then how can you take right choices?

Taking right choices may be tough in most of the times. But you can make it right! through constant practise. Finally, in case you have made a choice, then how can you make sure your choice is right! That is another important thing. For that you can’t assess your choices using any formula neither with any machinery. But you can make sure it will go right all the time. How?

You have to dedicate yourself to re-program your brain for success. You might be aware about the fact that all the actions and decisions in your life are solely based on your thoughts produced from your brain. If your brain produces the thoughts of negativity and gossip all the time. Your choices will be the same.

Let’s say, if your thought is “time-pass” then you will only make a choice to spend time for unproductive actions like watching television for hours. If your thought is “invest time” then you will make a choice to read a transformational book that will lead you to a successful life.

So to be the best “choice-maker-machine”, you first need to aquire a very positive mental attitude.

How you can do that, again it is simple:

1. Wake up early in the morning 
    (if possible at 5:00 AM)

2. Drink a lot of water

3. Do Exercise 
    (for 10-20 mins)

4.   Meditate 
    (for 20 mins)

5.  Read a transformational book 
    (think on the ideas you read, if possible capture it in writing)

6. Listen to positive music 
    (lyrics have to be very positive, rock on!)

7.   Sing and dance 
   (dance like you have never danced before, 
    scream!! if your neighbores are okay with it :-) )

When you practice this for next 10 days, you will start making very impressive choices in your life and I am sure, all those choices will be right!

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Do This One Thing, Your Life 'll Be Beautiful!

By Jerin Jacob (Author of Your Epic Year)

Let me start of by congratulating you for stopping here and reading something good about life. When I  appreciated you, you may have felt better, right ah? Yes, this time, I am writing about the very thing “Appreciation”.

Have you heard about unconditional appreciation?

Appreciation is the one thing everyone of us strive for. You may say, I don't like to be appreciated or I don't appreciate anyone even if they do wonderful deeds. Let me tell you that being appreciated is a natural human need. At-least non-consciously you love the idea of being appreciated. Most  psychologist may agree with this! (Those psychologists who have not only got certified but have a good and proven capabilities to analyse minds by the way)

Hence this is the case about you, then what about the people in your organization or in your family. Everyone love to hear some good words about themselves.

Millions of people go to their bed starving, because of their poverty. About the same number of people go to their bed weeping without being appreciated.

You may know the basic rule of the universe - 

“What you GIVE that you RECEIVE back abundantly”. 

So you might have got the point by now. Give negativity and receive back negativity abundantly. Give appreciation and receive appreciations abundantly. Yes, start appreciating and celebrate the little wins of the people around you. In between this appreciation-game, you should take care of some critical things to effectively appreciate and to get appreciated. Here it is!

#2 things you should care when you GIVE appreciation:

1. Never appreciate only because Jerin Jacob has written this, that means, don't appreciate for the sake of appreciating. But do it for a genuine reason.
   
   
2. When you do that, go very close to the person you would like to appreciate, then look at his/her eyes with an  encouraging smile, then congratulate the person. This is the best way to do that; if you have a better version then do let me know.

#1 thing you should care when you RECEIVE appreciation:

1. When you receive appreciation, most of you may show the greatest acts of humbleness and may say “It's nothing man”. (For sure, if you have done the above act of being humble then he/she will never appreciate you again). Some-others haunt the person who stepped forward for this wonderful act of appreciation. (In that case, you are literally warning the other person never to appreciate you). Say “Thank you” to the one who appreciated you, simple as that.

And most importantly when you appreciate someone, do it unconditionally. That means do appreciate people for their good deeds and never expect anything back, not even a smile. You 'll receive great things now or later, not necessarily from the one you have appreciated but from the divine power. 

My dear awesome reader, I am thankful for your patience to read this. Hope it has benefited you in some-way or the other. Do share your feedback and comment in below. I will definitely appreciate that!

Happy appreciating...

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Do NOT stop smoking

 Oh really Jerin, you may think why should I say that. Hey, I am not saying it; rather the sub-conscious mind speaks this, to those who think of stop smoking. Okay, now you may wonder what this sub-conscious mind is! What it has to do with smoking?

Wait, wait, I will explain it very precisely to you. Let me start-off by sharing the purpose of this writing. My intention is to find a solution for those who 'try' quit smoking but can’t make it. They even end up in being more ‘professional’ smokers. After reading this, may be you could help yourself or someone else to really find a better ‘profession’ other than smoking :)

To easily quit smoking or quit any bad habit, you need to understand that your mind is divided in to two. And also you need to understand its functionality.

• Conscious mind and
• Sub-conscious mind

Conscious mind is controlling your feelings and other day-to-day activities, like smiling crying and speaking. Even though this is the case, your conscious mind has a very limited authority on your life journey.

On the other hand Sub-conscious mind has larger control on you. Sub-conscious mind is 100's of milliseconds faster compared to Conscious mind. Sub-conscious is the inner-core of you. Your behavior and your character is a reflection of your Sub-conscious mind. You are reading this article with the help of your Conscious mind, but the data you have read is stored and is processed by your Sub-conscious mind.

You must be asking yourself, why I should know these facts to quit any bad habit! Hey please hang in there. I am about to share a simple example so that you could understand both sub-conscious and conscious functionality easily. That will reveal a secret which will help you to quit almost any bad habit.

The metaphor/example:

I request you to imagine a cab driver as the Sub-conscious mind and the cab passenger as the Conscious mind. The passenger travels from Cochin to Bangalore every day in the same cab. One day he decided to go to New Delhi, there he could get a new business deal by that he can fulfill all his dreams. Before the journey he told all of his friends that he is going to New Delhi. He wrote about it in his dairy too. Next day, he got into the cab which he usually travels to Bangalore. This time he wanted to go to New Delhi, but he didn’t tell anything to the cab driver. Surely the driver would drive him to Bangalore until the passenger informs him that he wanted to go to New Delhi. The passenger may be fully excited and dedicated to reach New Delhi, but do you think he will reach New Delhi? The passenger could reach there unless and until he speaks to the cab driver where he wanted to go.

It is the same way your brain also works, the cab driver is your sub-conscious mind and the passenger is your conscious mind. If your sub-conscious mind is not convinced in anything, you can’t change anything in your life. Unless and until you have a new belief system in your sub-conscious mind you can’t get rid of any bad habits.

So when anyone who wants to stop smoking has to convince their ‘driver’ the sub-conscious mind first. In above cited scenario it may be easy to ask the driver to drive where the passenger wants to go. It’s a matter of speaking out what he wants. But as far as quit smoking is concerned, to convince your Sub-conscious mind is hard! Because over the past #10 to #15 years the sub-conscious mind has been enjoying smoking. It must have become a vital part in your daily activity.

But it is possible to reprogram your Sub-conscious mind, and people have been doing it. To do just that, first of all you need to go back to your past and analyze how did you pick this bad habit? Then only you can do a ‘reverse-engineering’.

Interestingly, most of the hard-core smokers started smoking because of their peer groups. He was being said that, to be like a macho man, one has to smoke. He was being said that to impress gals one has to smoke ;) The poor boy went home and he watched movies, there he found most of the macho film heroes’ smoke. Then he would certainly think why can't me! Yes, that was the beginning of an epic smoker.

Literally the words of the peers and the images from the movies on smoking were sub-conscious programming.

As you may know that your thoughts and imaginations are stored in your brain in the forms of images. Each word is converted into images before storing it into your brain. So when your friend says all Macho men smoke, it creates a picture in your brain. Since Sub-conscious mind can only understand images which becomes a direct instructions to the ‘driver’ of your life – the Sub-conscious mind.

This is the way you acquire bad habits, then what happens when you try to stop them!

For easy understanding of the situation, moving forward I am considering you as a hard-core smoker. Hope its okay with you :)

Let’s say you have decided to ‘Stop smoking’. When you decide on something, it travels to the brain as instruction. There your brain splits the instruction into each word, in this case one word is ‘Stop’ and the other is ‘Smoking’. Brain cannot have a pictorial representation to ‘Stop’ (‘Quit’ or ‘Do not’) so Sub-conscious mind ignores those words. But ‘Smoking’ can be represented as an image in your Sub-conscious mind. So when conscious brain decides to “Stop Smoking”. The sub-conscious brain stores the images of “Smoking” only. The images could be your favorite film star playing with a cigarette!

That means, when you decide and dedicate yourself to “Stop smoking”, on a sub-conscious level more addiction happens. Because as per the images generated in your brain is literally programming your brain for more smoking.

Don't you believe it’s true? Okay, and then let me prove it to you…

Read the following sentence very carefully…

And do exactly what it says…  

By closing your eyes… read it!

“STOP THINKING ABOUT A WHITE CAR”

Have you tried it?

But you have still seen a car's image in your mind, right?

Oh Jerin, yes I still see a car… yes you will, because your Sub-conscious cannot understand ‘Stop’ or ‘Don’t’. It understands only images which can be refereed to a situation or an object. This is the perfect proof of the whole story :)

So the solution is you need to work yourself in a way that your brain will store images of a new habit or an image of a completely charming personality who do not smoke. May be as of the the image below :)

In this point of time, let me tell you that, It is perfectly possible to stop a bad habit - in this case smoking - completely on a day and can stay as a non-smoker forever. But almost all experts on de-addiction say, never stop any bad habit suddenly it can affect your body system worst. 

I have jotted down some steps for you, use it:

Step 0: Don’t take it seriously, that you are going to stop smoking. Have fun with the whole process.

Step 1: Speak yourself “I have a new habit of …” (may be reading transformational books, eating chocolate, dancing etc.) Never speak to anybody that you stop smoking rather tell others and yourself that you are acquiring new good habits. Do just that.

Step 2: Whenever you have a temptation to smoke, do go out to the shop you regularly buys cigarette, but don’t buy one. Buy something else (not another alcoholic material:) ) - buy a Candy or a Bubble gum. That is ridiculous, hah? Do you really want change then just do it :)

Step 3: It takes #21 consecutive days to acquire or break a habit. So every time you successfully complete a day without smoking, count down, or mark it in your calender. 

 

Step 4: You still feel like buying Cigarette, then its fine to Buy #1 Cigarette a day, then gradually shift it to Buy #1 Cigarette a week, then to Buy #1 a month and them #0 Cigarette for the whole year and forever. Or you can consider #1 puff of Cigarette or whatever you feel like comfortable for a day so on and so forth.

Step 4.1: Even then you partially smoked, you can take it as a successful day and mark it in your calender.

Step 5: Then the hardest thing to practice, change the people you hang out with! That is tough, nah? Okay, if you are really serious about quit smoking, then you should choose the people you hang around. Who are your six closest friends? They were just strangers before #5 to #10 years ago, then why can’t you choose to create better friends now; it hurts but the pain would be much less than the regret you make in your death bed.

Step 5.1: No! You can’t leave your friends? Okay then you keep the friends but don’t roam around the place your people do social smoking. It is all testing phases, if you really want to get rid of this bad habit; you have to do all these things. Once you acquired new habits, when you feel okay to hang around the places, then do that. But you should be aware that programming for smoking can happen again, it’s your choice what to do then!

Step 6: Smile big :)

Still you say “Oh Jerin, you can’t understand my life, it is very frustrating and you don’t know my girl friend has left me, my job is irritating. No other choice for me, I have to smoke :)”

It’s a common response and natural tendency to hesitate change; then ask yourself, really ask this man! 

 

Does smoking help me in anyway?

Does smoking bring closer to my dreams or life purpose?

Oh What? You don’t have a dream or a life purpose? Then let me help you to figure it out :) Think this way, your life is about to an end and you have only 24 Hours left in your life! Then what all things would you do in this 24 Hrs? What all things you would feel like, you would have done? If you can really answer this, then you will have found-out your life purpose :) Go ahead.

I leave you by sharing,

The Wikipedia facts which reflect the instant changes after stop smoking.

+ Within 20 minutes after quitting, blood pressure and heart rate decrease
+ Within 12 hours, carbon monoxide levels in the blood decrease to normal
+ Within 3 months, circulation and lung function improve
+ Within 9 months, there are decreases in cough and shortness of breath

Within 1 year your life transforms :)

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Doing nothing!

When I mentioned “Doing nothing” that does mean what it means ;) I recommend and I believe this is an option in improving your quality of life. Having wrote that, many may oppose that Doing nothing is a waste of time and is unproductive and so on and so forth.

There is scientific proof that, 15-30 minutes of rest is a must for our body and mind after each 3:00 hrs of work. That doesn't mean you should spend this time to wander around with your unworthy thoughts, or set yourselves in-front of television. That spoils the worthiness of the call for doing nothing.

Dedicating yourselves in "Doing nothing" is like being in a very meditative state. To be more precise, keep yourselves fully quiet and be away from all distractions. This will lift your consciousness to a higher level. Its not taking a rest or a nap, it is laziness; but doing nothing in a very peaceful manner.

You may think that, being in meditation is an act, then what is the point in saying not “doing” anything. In my perspective being in a meditative state is complete stillness, if you really go deep into the meditation process you don't even feel the inhaling and exhaling. Then that stillness is no more a verb.

Do invest your time to be in this process of “Doing nothing” in regular intervals. Hope you don't over-do this and get yourselves fired from your profession ;). Its your choice to take intervals and use it effectively. It is sure that, this will improve your productivity and will rejuvenate your body and mind.

Anyone who questions its practicality, I would suggest you to try this -

Now read slowly,

Observe your inhale and exhale now,

Be very present,

Listen, really listen the sounds around you, even the minute sounds.

Feel them.

Can you feel the stillness?

Imagine you are alone in this infinite and vast universe!

Close you eyes and try this now...

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If you have really tried this, then you have taken a baby step towards “Doing nothing” and getting something beneficial out of it;) I leave you with a quote “No great work has ever been produced except after a long interval of still and musing meditation”.

Stop worrying and start living!

Worry is the prayer to attract what we don't want. When we were born and was a child we weren't worrying about anything. We simply knew and loved to smile, sometimes we might have cried, it was not because of worry but to sell our need for milk or food.


But as we grown up, we started leaning the lessons of being worried. If you look back to your life you must be realizing whenever you were tensed and worried about something that must have become even worst. On the other hand when you were detached from the worrisome situations and you were simply enjoying other things, then suddenly and miraculously things became very positive and worth. That means being worried never deliver anything good to us, then why should we waste our precious time spending so. Life is easy and simple, that is how we should live life. When we feel love towards even to our challenges that will create a huge positive shift in our results.


Past is over, the people or things from the past cannot haunt you unless you allow it consciously. Same for the future, don't give too much importance to the future outcomes. Only you have control in the now, only you can make choices in the now neither in past nor in future. So be in the now, stop worrying and enjoy every bit of this miraculous life we have.

If you still feel that I can't manage that person or I can't stop worrying about this particular situation and so on, simple solution for this is, write it down or share your grief to someone you love. It will shift your consciousness and make you feel better, When you share do remember you are releasing your worries not adding to it, make the writing/sharing crisp and let go.


Go great!

What do you feel, when someone calls you stupid?

Many of us might have been discouraged by our parents, teachers or our peers whenever we follow our heart desires. They may say, you can't do it, you are not gonna make it, you are of no use, you don't have nothing inside your brain and such negative lines. But the fact is that we have far more capabilities than we have ever imagined to be. These so called well-wishers do advice on almost everything under the sky.

Those negative feedback on us must not be true, lets take a second and have some serious analysis on our own body system, we would realize that, we are unlimited beings and can achieve whatever we can think about.

This writing is to re-affirm ourselves that we are the most wonderful creations in the world. And to realize the following facts.

1. You might be aware about this interesting scientific fact, that there is around 15 to 30 billion neurons in our brain which has greater processing capacity than the most advanced super computers available.
   
   
2. As per the research on quantum physics, it is proven that through our thoughts and perceptions we can even create our own world around us. 
    
3. Spiritually speaking we are born and are walking upon this planet as complete and perfect spirit. Yes, our body and mind do different things but ultimately our spirit is pure like a white glowing light always and every-time.
   
   
4. When you are reading this, about 2.4 million red blood cells are being formed in your body at each second.

There is lot more such exciting truths and facts which could prove that we are the most wonderful creations in this world. To understand that we need to really invest our time to learn more about ourselves.

Even then these is the case that, we all are prefect and great. You may be thinking that, why still many of us struggle and at the same time many of us enjoy success! Why many of us live and die as poor! At the same time many of us enjoy abundance for generations!

Many of you say it is because of the inherent qualities or by nature, they have become what they are. Some others may say its because of the circumstances and environment or by nurture, they have become what they are. But the reality is neither the nurture or the nature, in fact it was their conscious choice to live a life of legends that made them what they are.

Abraham Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi, Albert Einstein all of them are great. But they were not called as great child when they were born. But it was their choice to become extra-ordinary in their profession, and personal life. They did strive for it. They realized the fact that thoughts can become things and they believed that whatever man can conceive that we can achieve in life. It is possible for each one of us too.

Now the question is, how is it possible for us?

Its possible when we understand the power of CHOICE. We always have a choice to do exceptional performance even at the toughest times. Its our choice to do whatever we wish to do. Its our choice to live for the sake of living or to do something extra.

As the quote says "Average people are dedicated to leisure. The best people are devoted to learning". So lets make a choice to dedicate ourselves to learn about ourselves. Now that when someone calls you stupid! Or tell you are of no good, what would you say? Don't fight them but pray for them, to realize the wonderful facts about our creation and the true potential within.

Lets rise into a greater level of existence whenever such negative critics try to pull us down. Lets move ahead!